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I am really only interested in ‘what works’ – that means what you can apply right now to help you to change quickly. I have found that one of my passions in life is discovering and researching any simple distinction, strategy, belief, skill, or tool that, the minute you understand it, you can apply to your life and make immediate increases in the quality of your life.

I call such information ‘Pith Teachings’ – teachings that summarize and give you the essence of what works, and especially what works quickly. If I was to have a brand slogan it would be ‘Real Change, Real Fast’. When I discover one I tend to apply it immediately to myself, then I use it on my friends and my patients.

My latest pith teaching discovery

I would like to share one I came across last week. It is called the Non Personal Awareness Process.

Sarah Bird is a therapist friend of mine who like myself, seems to attract such pith teachings. Over breakfast last week she introduced the idea to me. Actually she directed me towards the web site Non Personal Awareness.com and I eventually got talking to Damien in France who brought me through the process.

Doing it had a profound effect and immediate effect – it reminded me of Byron Katies process ‘The Work’. The pain I was carrying about how I thought my life ‘should’ be sort of melted away. I realized that on some level of my being I was fighting with the actuality of my life. The Non Personal Awareness process seems to bring in a profound level of acceptance of what is.

I tried it with one of my patients the other day – a highly stressed young woman dealing with a severely autistic child. When I brought her through the process she said, “What have you done to me? I feel like all the negativity is draining out of the back of my head.”

I will not say too much about the process now. Read the instructions below, do the process and then, at the end of the article, we can talk about it.

H2: How to do the process

Treat it a meditation – find yourself in a quiet place where you can focus internally and not be disturbed or distracted. It is best to sit upright – not lying down or slumped on a sofa.

Have this blog in front of you.

It is best to speak out loud to yourself when you do the process, but if you cannot do this have your journal and pen in front of you.

Take a few deep breaths in.

Center yourself.

The Non Personal Awareness Process

Answer one or both of the following questions depending on what is going on for you

What are you experiencing that you would like to allow to pass?

What are you not experiencing that you would like to allow to come?

Just begin to speak, let the words come out without thinking about it.

As you speak you will find that some words have more of an emotional charge to them than others. The emotional charge is felt in your body and it may not feel particularly pleasant for you – it is this unpleasant feeling that you have a resistance to experiencing.

Keep speaking until you feel you have said enough.

Say the following sentences OUT LOUD using your answer to whichever question you chose to fill in the blank.

Stay present to your experience and allow yourself to feel the words as you say them.

This ________________

This Energy of ____________

This Pure Energy of ___________ is not personal

This Pure Energy of ___________ is not personal

This Pure Energy of ___________ is not personal

And I am willing to experience it.

Now be inwardly still. Let go and give yourself space to simply be with your experience, until you feel a natural completion.

Finish by inwardly thanking all beings and conditions that led to you doing this practice.

To delve deeper and enrich your NPA experience you can visit www.NonPersonalAwareness.com

Transcript of an NPA session

The following is a transcript of a session just to give you a sense of it.

What am I experiencing which I would like to allow to pass? [Words spoken out]

I am experiencing doing a job which I don’t really like doing, I have to cycle through traffic which I don’t like doing, I’m too old for this, I want an easier life, I am experiencing frustration that my days aren’t the way that I want them to be ideally. I don’t like disrupting my day with having to go out. I want to work from home, I don’t like doing things that I don’t like to do, I feel angry and upset, my breathing is getting deeper, this is shit, this is really shit.”

As it happened the first few words spoken held the greatest charge. The originator of this technique advises to listen for ‘animation’ – those words that you feel hold most emotion for you. They feel like they are in bold. They stand out. You may have difficulty saying them.

Then put the word through the process:

This doing a job which I don’t really like doing

This Energy of doing a job which I don’t really like doing

This Pure Energy of doing a job which I don’t really like doing is not personal

This Pure Energy of doing a job which I don’t really like doing is not personal

This Pure Energy of doing a job which I don’t really like doing is not personal

And I am willing to experience it.

“Gosh, after that I feel that I can accept my job, at the moment it is ok to do a job I don’t really like because I’m in the process of getting out of it. I don’t have to be in pain. I feel much more resourceful.”

Acceptance versus Resistance: The questions are the answer

What are you experiencing that you would like to allow to pass?

What a great question. Somehow just verbalizing and putting language on our experience helps the process of letting it flow. The Non Personal Awareness process seems to be a method of really accepting those aspects of your reality which you have been fighting. The only time we suffer is when we energize a thought which argues with what is.

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